Do Boys Ever Think They’re Ready for Kids?

On top of that, a recent NPR program described a case where a group of boys is regularly asked to spend a portion of each week taking care of small babies. He announcer also mentioned that the boys now look forward to it. Unfortunately, I don’t have any more details on this, but it certainly sounds good. Indeed, very good!  Those boys can now go out and get babysitting jobs or childcare jobs, moving in on the girls who monopolize it, and preparing themselves to be involved fathers.

Except that the current monopoly will work very hard to keep them off “their turf”. As does any monopoly which is threatened.  Those boys are probably less likely to be afraid of, or threatened by, babies. However, they may be more aware of the responsibilities of: kids. In practice you probably need to convince the parents (especially mothers), who are the people who select babysitters… Chances are that if you are human, you have been babysat before.

Affirmative Action

If women have a “lock” on the childcare jobs (a 90% rate of awarding child custody to women reflects this) and on the “educational slots” that permit them to stay at home if they choose, then should we implement affirmative action for men? Unfortunately, there *aren’t* such “educational slots”. People don’t really learn how to parent.  Most mothers (as well as fathers) often feel ill-equipped for the job. There aren’t really any educational programs (Home Ec is pretty negligible) for this purpose.

Men tend to be prevented by work-constraints and social-constraints. Even when they might want to learn, the expectation that they are incompetent, tied with the volume of mistakes most parents make at the start, may stop them from being persistent. There seems to me also to be a kind of female “machismo” in that women are expected to know how to raise children, so often they will “bluff” their way through and refuse to give up.  Furthermore, because they might feel nobody would accept their giving up, they “quietly” go through all the unadvertised mistakes that +everyone+ makes when learning to parent.

Do Women Really Do This?

So you are saying that as soon as she is old enough to have a baby she is a woman? They can do that at preteen (at least some can), have a job? I had a paper route at preteen level and many females have babysitting jobs or childcare jobs at the preteen level.  I’ve even known females who were married at 13 to 14 years of age, so any girl who has started her monthly cycle is a woman eh?

I guess it then follows that any male who can ejaculate is also a man.  I DON”T THINKS SO!  It requires an emotional maturity to be either a man or a woman. I’ve known 35 and 40 year olds which I thought were children, even when I was in my teens and early 20s. Physically an 18 year old may be able to perform all the bodily functions as a woman but that does NOT default to her being a woman.

Babysitting – When to Let Them?

My daughter is also twelve and has demonstrated the ability to care for children in babysitting situation. One of the ways we’re giving her experience sitting w/o having her bear the whole responsibility is by working for the church. There are groups that have got together at the church and hire small groups of teens to babysit. By being part of that she gets a chance to be in charge and if anything came up that was beyond her ability she could get the parents. If a family that we knew & trusted with 2 or 3 children hired her for childcare jobs, we would allow her, but for the first couple of times I would make sure I was going to be home so that if she needed assistance she could call for it.

We have a favorite babysitter who started sitting for us when she was just shy of 15.  Her mother has trained her to babysit.  She took her to first aid and cpr classes. She talked to her at great length about the things your child probably knows … age-appropriate toys, diapering, safety issues, etc.  She taught her to clean up, put food away properly, and wash the dishes. She went along on her first several jobs to observe from a distance and watch how well she was able to manage the children. I would advise that you go over these types of things with your child.  I have been quite surprised by the holes in my children’s knowledge and by the holes in the knowledge of some babysitters I have hired.

Child Care Location

I’ve dealt with this one differently with different of my kids. I think the most important thing is to look for the best childcare situation, the one that you’ll feel best about leaving your child in. Then, all things being equal, there are plusses and minuses on both sides. If the childcare is near your husband’s job, you are spared some of the hassles of getting the kid out the door in the morning — when I first went back to work, it really helped to have my husband getting Pete mostly dressed and in the car – it meant that I only had to get myself out the door, which seemed hard enough. Also, it meant that I got home first and could have a few minutes to relax and get dinner organized before they got home. Later, Pete was at a school where I could take him, and I enjoyed the drive to and from work with him very much — it was our best conversation time. The only real disadvantage of having childcare close to a job and relatively far from home is what happens when you change jobs.

I would suggest finding the best possible child care, putting preference on close to home. If you have confidence in the care giver the distance will not be so great.  If something really terrible happens they will get your child to a hospital faster than you could leave work, pick them up, etc.  No matter where the child care is located. Talk to the doctor about medical release forms if you are really worried. My preference on close to home deals with how much time you want to spend in the car, during rush hour, with a tired hungry child.  Remember that the childcare jobs location you are choosing will be used for several years.

Tax Treatment of out of House Child Care

I am considering paying a friend to look after my child for around 40 hours a week. Obviously this would be at least $1000 a month. This would be based entirely in her home. She does not have a business or any particular child care license; she does look after another child for payment, on a similarly informal basis, but only for about 10 hours a week and not necessarily every week. My basic question is how is this treated, as far as I am concerned, for tax purposes? Specifically, would I have to pay payroll taxes, unemployment tax etc. as I would for a “household employee”. I want to do this all “above board” and properly, of course. I’ve looked around a lot for information, including IRS publications, but they always seem to relate only to household employees” ie the “nanny tax” and these people apparently have to actually work in your own house, not their house, according to publication 926.

Is it assumed that she should have a business license and pay all her own taxes? Does it matter to the IRS that she would not have a state license for childcare (this is unimportant to me: she’s a family friend and I would much prefer her to look after my child than anyone else, however we have to arrange it, but maybe it affects taxes; note that my state does not have an income tax)? Does the answer to these affect how I claim her costs under my flexible childcare savings Account section 125?

The Children’s Defense Fund

America’s workers are paying continuously rising costs for goods and services, yet those who earn very low wages have gone seven years with no action by Congress to raise the minimum wage and help them meet those costs.  For too many working families a full-time job does not provide enough money to support a family.  Raising the minimum wage would increase families’ ability to pay for child care, housing, food and medicine.

However, the Republicans will likely offer an alternative amendment with a lesser increase in the minimum wage of around $6.25 tied to provisions that will undermine worker protections.  An increase to $6.25 would help 4.1 million workers, 3.3 million fewer than the Democratic proposal.

A fair increase in the minimum wage is long overdue.  It’s been seven years since the nation’s lowest paid workers have had a raise. Congress should act as quickly as possible to pass a minimum wage increase that reflects the losses suffered as the result of seven years of inaction.

Opponents routinely argue that minimum wage increases cause job losses. The empirical minimum wage research solidly rejects this hypothesis and proves that childcare jobs did not fall when Congress enacted previous minimum wage increases in the 1990s.

Fact Sheets on Child Care Initiative

Increases Tax Credits for Child Care for Three Million Working Families. The Child and Dependent Tax Credit provides tax relief to taxpayers who pay for the care of a child under 13 or a disabled dependent or spouse in order to work.  The credit is equal to a percentage of the taxpayer’s employment-related expenditures for child or dependent care, with the amount of the credit depending on the taxpayer’s income. The President’s proposal increases the credit for families earning under $60,000.  It provides an additional average tax cut of $358 for these families, and it eliminates income tax liability for almost all families with incomes below 200% of poverty ($35,000 for a family of four) that take the maximum allowable child care expenses under the law. The President’s budget will include $5.2 billion over five years to expand the Child and Dependent Care Tax Credit for three million working families.

The child care initiative includes a tax credit to businesses that provide child care services for their employees, by building or expanding child care facilities, operating existing facilities, training child care workers, reserving slots for employees at childcare jobs facilities, or providing child care resource and referral services to employees.  The credit covers 25% of qualified costs, but may not exceed $150,000 per year. The President’s budget will include approximately $500 million over five years for these tax credits.

Availability of Affordable Child Care in UK/Germany

Parents and children in rural areas also face a disadvantage – 83% of rural parishes have no private nursery, 93% no public nursery and 92% no out-of-school childcare. The report says: “Only 10% of employees in the UK now work a standard 40-hour week, but flexible childcare services have not been developed to meet the needs of shift workers who still depend on multiple informal arrangements. With both parents in nearly 70% of couples working, there is a demand for an all-day service for three and four-year-olds, not just part-time nursery education places.

“Isolated working mothers are still very upset in the previous E.Germany, because months after the new SPD/Green Govt. were able to box through the re-introduction of govt. guarantees for the availability of pre-school child care and after school extended care for all who have a social indication of needing it… (after this had been the case for some 15+ years in the old E.Germany and had not been available since re-unification under the previous CDU/CSU Govt.. until its recent restitution.) a few of them have found themselves being put on 3 – 6 month waiting lists as local officials cling to high personnel .Child ratios and refuse to “overcrowd” in order to comply in the short term with the new govt. guarantees of a place – until more staff can be trained and premises found etc.”

Child Workers Face Scrutiny of their Past

Anyone applying for paid or volunteer work with children in NSW will have their lives scrutinized under new employment screening rules. About 100,000 people will be subject to the rules, which are believed to be a world first. They will apply not only to teachers and child-care workers, but also to school bus drivers, football coaches and school gardeners who have unsupervised contact with children. Under the two-tier system, no-one convicted of a sexual assault or child abuse crime carrying a penalty of 12 months or more will be allowed to work with children, whether paid or as a volunteer.

But those who have had only apprehended violence orders taken out against them, criminal charges dropped, or disciplinary procedures at work laid against them for physical, sexual or emotional abuse of children, will be assessed for childcare jobs. Their chances of a job will depend on the detail of their case and the position they apply for. Existing employees will not have to undergo these checks unless they change jobs.