Do Boys Ever Think They’re Ready for Kids?

On top of that, a recent NPR program described a case where a group of boys is regularly asked to spend a portion of each week taking care of small babies. He announcer also mentioned that the boys now look forward to it. Unfortunately, I don’t have any more details on this, but it certainly sounds good. Indeed, very good!  Those boys can now go out and get babysitting jobs or childcare jobs, moving in on the girls who monopolize it, and preparing themselves to be involved fathers.

Except that the current monopoly will work very hard to keep them off “their turf”. As does any monopoly which is threatened.  Those boys are probably less likely to be afraid of, or threatened by, babies. However, they may be more aware of the responsibilities of: kids. In practice you probably need to convince the parents (especially mothers), who are the people who select babysitters… Chances are that if you are human, you have been babysat before.

Child Care Location

I’ve dealt with this one differently with different of my kids. I think the most important thing is to look for the best childcare situation, the one that you’ll feel best about leaving your child in. Then, all things being equal, there are plusses and minuses on both sides. If the childcare is near your husband’s job, you are spared some of the hassles of getting the kid out the door in the morning — when I first went back to work, it really helped to have my husband getting Pete mostly dressed and in the car – it meant that I only had to get myself out the door, which seemed hard enough. Also, it meant that I got home first and could have a few minutes to relax and get dinner organized before they got home. Later, Pete was at a school where I could take him, and I enjoyed the drive to and from work with him very much — it was our best conversation time. The only real disadvantage of having childcare close to a job and relatively far from home is what happens when you change jobs.

I would suggest finding the best possible child care, putting preference on close to home. If you have confidence in the care giver the distance will not be so great.  If something really terrible happens they will get your child to a hospital faster than you could leave work, pick them up, etc.  No matter where the child care is located. Talk to the doctor about medical release forms if you are really worried. My preference on close to home deals with how much time you want to spend in the car, during rush hour, with a tired hungry child.  Remember that the childcare jobs location you are choosing will be used for several years.

Tax Treatment of out of House Child Care

I am considering paying a friend to look after my child for around 40 hours a week. Obviously this would be at least $1000 a month. This would be based entirely in her home. She does not have a business or any particular child care license; she does look after another child for payment, on a similarly informal basis, but only for about 10 hours a week and not necessarily every week. My basic question is how is this treated, as far as I am concerned, for tax purposes? Specifically, would I have to pay payroll taxes, unemployment tax etc. as I would for a “household employee”. I want to do this all “above board” and properly, of course. I’ve looked around a lot for information, including IRS publications, but they always seem to relate only to household employees” ie the “nanny tax” and these people apparently have to actually work in your own house, not their house, according to publication 926.

Is it assumed that she should have a business license and pay all her own taxes? Does it matter to the IRS that she would not have a state license for childcare (this is unimportant to me: she’s a family friend and I would much prefer her to look after my child than anyone else, however we have to arrange it, but maybe it affects taxes; note that my state does not have an income tax)? Does the answer to these affect how I claim her costs under my flexible childcare savings Account section 125?

Child Care Accomplishments

Over the past decade, the number of American families with working parents has expanded dramatically.  Making high quality child care more affordable and accessible is critical to the strength of our families and to healthy child development and learning…..  Each of us — from businesses to religious leaders to policy-makers and elected officials – has a responsibility and an important stake in making sure that children of all ages have the best possible care available to them.  From infancy through adolescence, in child care settings and after-school programs, children can learn and thrive with the right care, attention, and education.

President Clinton is hosting the first-ever White House Conference on Child Care to focus the nation’s attention on the importance of addressing the need for safe, affordable, quality childcare jobs. This Conference underscores and builds upon the President Clinton’s commitment to strengthen the American family by giving parents the tools they need to fulfill their responsibilities and giving children the ability to reach their full potential.

Throughout his presidency, President Clinton has worked hard to help America’s working families.  That is why the President fought for the passage of the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) to allow workers to take up to 12 weeks unpaid leave to care for a newborn or adopted child, to attend to their own serious health needs, or to care for a seriously ill parent, child or spouse.  In June 1996, President Clinton proposed expanding FMLA to allow workers to take up to 24 unpaid hours off each year for school and early childhood education activities, routine family medical care, and caring for an elderly relative.  The President also has fought for greater health security for America’s families.  He signed into law the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act which includes important new protections for an estimated 25 million Americans who move from one job to another, who are self-employed, or who have pre-existing medical conditions.

Future Day Care Dilemma

As a child-care provider, I would not have a problem being video-taped, but only if I were informed that it might be happening. I would be very uncomfortable if I were to find out later that it had happened and lose my respect and trust for my employer and probably leave the position that may have otherwise been a good match for each of us.

Not because I would be afraid of a video showing any neglect of the kids, but because when I`m alone in a home with small children, I tend to behave more like I would in my own home when I assume I have privacy. Stupid personal things like, unbuttoning my pants if I have a tummy ache, leaving the bathroom door open, licking bowls, nose-picking- I`m not saying I act like a slob when the kids are around, or even very often,  but when they are napping and I`m occupied with other things I feel more “free

The children`s safety is much more important that embarrassment issues of the provider, I still stand by my opinion. It seems like a huge lack of respect that wouldn`t be tolerated in other employment situations- I know childcare jobs is different from other employment, but providers still deserve some respect.  I don`t know how other providers feel, that’s just me.  If I was ever in the situation of needing a childcare provider I would likely try to find the resources to tape her, but treat her as I would like to be treated.  Of course before anyone was hired references would be thoroughly checked and I`d want to observe her interaction with my kids.

Who Protects the Parents?

The UK law provides a lot of protection for parents. People working with children are not allowed to examine children physically, or to take them to the doctor without parental consent. If a child comes into a setting with bruising, the first action of the nursery worker should be to talk to the parents about it. This is done partly to protect the worker – it has been known for parents to accuse workers of bruising their child, when the bruise was an old one acquired elsewhere. It is also done out of concern and interest in the child, and should not be threatening to the parent.

A worker should never ‘accuse’ a parent of abusing a child on the strength of a few bruises alone. All children get bruised, as you say, in play, in accidents etc. What we would look for is a combination of changes in behavior, changes in health and wellbeing, things children say about home life, a child’s general development, how happy the child seems, as well as injuries that are difficult to explain. We all know the types of bruising that children get during play - grazed knees, bumped heads, and grazed hands. Other parts of the body are less likely – although not impossible – to bruise accidentally.

Please don’t imagine that ‘no one knows’ about the boundaries between child abuse and discipline. Some of us spend our careers studying and discussing these very things!  There is plenty of support and information out there. Your local college may run basic childcare courses which will give you a grounding in child development, behavior management etc. Simply talking to other parents helps a lot, too – you share ideas and support each other.

Childcare jobs do not change rapidly, as you fear – children are just the same now as they always have been!  However, you can certainly get the impression that it does, when you ask various people for advice. Some will advise smacking, others will say never smack and still others will have some other method for bringing up children.

Mom’s Title

For mother no qualifications are required to get the job and no one interviews you beforehand to check that you are suitable for the position. This ‘anyone can do it’ degrades motherhood from the word go. Well, it’s true – anyone CAN do it…but not everyone can do a GOOD job of it. Personally I would like to see our government introduce voluntary courses in childcare aspects such as nutrition, discipline, morality, mental and physical development – with attendance/passing exams bringing a recognized qualification.

Not only would this elevate the status of the mother (or father…I suppose we oughtn’t be sexist!) involved but it would hopefully improve parenting abilities across the board (we all have something to learn!). OK, so I know that here in the UK there ARE childcare jobs, and various levels of qualification in say, child psychology – but these courses are designed to lead to a ‘traditional’ career in the chosen subject rather than be accessible to/ designed especially for the role of parent.

Solutions for Bad Day cares

MOST family’s childcare is a necessary expense so they can have a job. (For most of us, there is no grandma willing and eager to pinch hit 8 hours a day, and to do alternating shift work [mom works days - dad works nights] just means that SOMEONE is never sleeping). If we didn’t have child care, we could not work, and we could not earn money and we COULD NOT PAY TAXES.  (And note that, just as I must make a profit most years for Uncle Sam to consider me self-employed, you can’t deduct more in child care than you actually earn being employed.)

It is an inconsistency that supports the widespread use of daycare services by an ever enlarging pool of people of all_ kinds, to a degree never before seen… the full consequences of which are simply not known. Substitute the task of childcare jobs with the task of commuting. You do a lot of commuting as part of earning your income and *get* subsidized. It isn’t fair. We have tried to point this out to you but your ditto-head can’t comprehend it.

Qualifications Required for Childcare Jobs

Many states and centers require a four-year degree in education for childcare jobs, or if not in that field, plenty of non-credit coursework and experience in addition. The government requires a Bachelor of Arts degree in ECE, sometimes a Master’s degree, but they’ll accept other degrees as long as you’ve got equivalent training and experience. All places, I think, should require at least two years of experience in a licensed facility, if not more in a supervisory /management role, before an individual is qualified to lead a center as a director.

While there are usually two requirements (training and experience), in addition to a criminal background check and pre-employment physical, one must remember that the salary and wonderful working conditions are not the reasons we go into child care.  As long as child care remains in at the tail end of the chain, we’ll never be truly respected as educators (“babysitter” is the phrase most of us hear, no matter how educated we are) or properly compensated for all the work we do to ensure children have a good start in life. Most of us go into child care or education because we love children. So as long as you remember that, and the salary and the crack comments don’t bother you, go for it.  There’s nothing quite like a child’s smile.  :)

Range of Daycare Director Salary

Range of salary varies a lot. On average, the salary of the childcare jobs is between $18-22K a year, less if it’s a very small facility, more if it’s a very large place, and possibly, depending on the city/state. Directors working for the federal government make between $22-25K a year, again more if there are additional responsibilities or if the center is a high capacity facility. Usually, an assistant director for a government center will start at a GS-5 or 7, depending on the size of the place, while a director may start at a GS-7 or 9.  Location may factor in here, too; overseas directors usually make a little more as compensation for moving out of the country.

Qualifications vary from state to state.  In general, you need a minimum of an Associate of Arts degree in Early Childhood Education, plus one or more year of experience.  A very, very small place — like under 40 capacities – may accept a Child Development Associate (CDA) certification, with plenty of experience.